It’s easy to fall for a narcissist, a narcissist is self absorbed, they will make themselves shine infront of you, they tell you how intelligent they are above everyone else, how they can beat everyone else at their game, their love for finer things and how you are going to shine in their presence, they tell you they have less friends because the mediocre don’t understand them… it’s about ‘them them them’… and if you are crushing on them at that moment you get excited about that self praise, you are inclined to think you are very special for them to choose you, you are unaware that they are not including much of you in their conversation. The truth is they want you for display purposes, to be a trophy and make them shine. they want you to be the slave – make their life livable, They want you for their sexual perversion, they want someone to control and manipulate, someone to validate their pompous nature, your role is to make them happy regardless of how you feel.
Be observant and attentive. Find out if s/he shows interest in knowing about you, how your life is and your life goals because in time his/her tendencies might weigh you down, life will turn around to be about them,while you shrivel and fade away at a corner. You don’t participate in decision making, you don’t dare grow, you become invisible in that relationship. If you are a kind of person who stand out against him-you become competitors other than partners because he gotta be better than you. He doesn’t tolerate a loss- so you turn into a destressing tool. There is a lot of emotional/psychological abuse in that kind of relationship.
#pick up the red flags
Much love ❤️
Kelly.
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