Rob & Di

PART 18
….4 months later.

They had been trying for a baby for the past 4 months but at every end of Di’s cycle was a blow of disappointment when she got her menses. The fun in their intimacy slowly disappeared, the more they didn’t conceive the more they got discouraged.

Rob thought maybe it’s the punishment he deserves for disrupting the first pregnancy. He visited a pastor at her mother’s church for confession and to prayers. He learnt that every night he kneels with his wife and pray. It gave him hope but that tinge of guilt was resurfacing again.

Di was confused, ‘what if she lost her fertility that time. What if it’s a curse, maybe she doesn’t deserve to be a mother after all.’ She didn’t know what to think, her mother had told her it’s too early to worry but that didn’t help. She discussed with her husband about going to see a doctor. They both agreed and set up an appointment.

( At the Doctor’s)
Dr: how long have you been trying to concieve
Di: it’s four months now
Dr: okay, so it’s not a long time at all
Di: it seems like forever, Ke a shwega shwega, Whenever I see other people’s babies I think of mine. I ve come here because tota I cant wait.
Dr: You need to be patient, conceiving is unpredictable, you keep hoping. don’t worry yourself. Do you have a child?
Di: No, I miscarried the first pregnancy
Dr: I am sorry about that, how far along were you? when was it?
Rob: it’s about a year ago, she was about 8 weeks .
Dr: that’s a long time, early pregnancy loss. Mrs Mothibi were there any complications? do you have any problems with your menses?
Di: I spent a longer time in hospital after they cleaned my uterus but I recovered well. My menses are not worrisome.
The doctor continued to take history from them then examined Di.
Dr: for now really there is no obvious worry. However I ll run some basic tests for both of you, to clear out the non-obvious. Let’s discuss how to amplify chances of getting pregnant.

“ 1. Higher chances of getting pregnant are around ovulation time. Between 10-14 days following the 1st day of your menses

2. It’s important to track that time. These days it’s easier because of technology, there are some applications that help track your menstrual cycle. You can also recognise it by certain changes : body temperature is a bit higher, your breast may get painful, some people may get pain or discomfort in the lower abdomen depending on which ovary is delivering the egg, there is changes in the discharge, it becomes mucoid clear and stretchy, the libido is usually high at that time
3. So you guys should plan to get busy around that time. Di, For supplements, I ll give you folic acid to help prevent neurological malformations in pregnancy
4. As for you Rob, if worries are there it would be highly likely with the spermatozoa. So the message is in making sure you create a conducive environment for healthy spermatozoa. it’s good that you are not smoking, dont. Avoid tight underwear, avoid hot baths, avoid sitting down for prolonged periods, eat healthy meals- in fact both of you.
5. Stop stressing too much about falling pregnant, somehow the more the stress the harder the chances. So add fun to the mission, tiisang lelwapa without really anticipating 2 lines on the pregnancy stick at the end of it. If you are believers, know that God’s timing is the best.”

Di: thank you doc, that was enlightening, I have some oomph to keep trying
Rob: ya, we were worried too much. That was reassuring and thank you for the education.
Dr: it’s a pleasure, I will call you when the results are out.
They bid farewell to the doctor.

(In the car)
Rob: I never thought I d be needing advice about getting pregnant. Nna ka re ke cha-cha hela.
Di: Hahaha! Cha-Cha. it’s weird isn’t it.
Rob: I mean we are young right?
Di: The young and the restless babe but sometimes we can’t dodge the struggle, it helps us appreciate life more.
Rob: the more I grow the more I learn the complexities tsa botshelo.I hope the results come out fine
Di: me too
Rob: hey hey love. We need to snap out of this mood though
Di: shift gears mothowame, it’s kinda sad.
Rob: I am thinking of party for two tonight. I ll be the dj. Wena you own the dance floor. I ll order the food. You choose the wine.
Di: well sounds like a partyy!

2 weeks later they recieved the doctor’s call and rushed to his office. Hearts pounding, each one lost in their thoughts of the outcome.
Dr: come in Mr & Mrs Mothibi

They got in and occupied the seats at the consultation table. Their files were there.
The doctor greeted them and took the stethoscope off his neck. Took a bit reading through the files and said,

Doc: uhm, Rob your results are fine. No worries.
Rob: (he sighed) thank you doc.
(He held Di’s hand, she was sweaty. He felt sorry she seemed very uncomfortable ‘my poor wife, she must be thinking the worst,’ he thought)
Doc: Mrs Mothibi, be rest assured too. I don’t see any abnormality in your results.
Di: ( big sigh!) I was about to collapse. Thank you doc.
Doc: so you guys keep trying with the advice that I gave you, I ll see you in 4 months time. All the best.

They left the consultation room relieved.

Di: Go setse hela gore batho ba mpagame mo tlhogong go twe ke tlhatswe lesire.It’s so uncomfortable, it makes me feel like I am barren, basadibagolo will start insinuating “he paid all that magadi for nothing and cannot give him a heir.”
Rob: love, do not even let that thought infiltrate your peace, we are the only ones who should be concerned about what happens in our home, we are not going to open gates to negativity into our marriage. Re siame. Let one say it, I will gladly set the record straight.
Di: My advocate, that is so sweet to hear. Goo ha ke bolaile ke senang,Ke senang..
Rob: hahahaha! wa re o senang? Botsa nna ka digai tse o ditshotseng. Di nthabile ha! ( hitting his chest) ka wela kwa!( pointed at the back with his thumb)
Di: Hehehehe! mxcm! You are crazy. But I love it.
Rob: I love you
Di: I love you more, thank you for this kind of love.
Rob hugged her and she just took in the love and assurance from that hug.
Even though the worry of falling had nagged them, they will live with the hope of having a child one day. In God’s timing.

*fiction

We will have a longer pause to the next parts.
Adios my beloveds. 😘😘
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#celebrating love..