#UprootingTheRapeCulture

When you get unhappy that she left a relationship whether yours or someone else’s, When you get unhappy because she said “no” to whatever you requested,
When you get unhappy because she hooked up with someone that you don’t like,
When you get unhappy that she “disrespected” you,
When you get unhappy that she reported rape.
In all these, you give her labels:
— she is a “whore”
—she is a “b**ch”
—she is a “harlot”
— ke “letalo”
—she is “loose”
— she is just “a hole”

All the demeaning names in efforts to emphasize how “sexually useless” she is, because not “sexually satisfying a man ” apparently takes away the validity of being a worthy woman in the society.

Most would laugh when all this is said as if it’s nothing to worry about. They don’t care much when a woman get degraded. That’s why when she gets raped we don’t make it a big deal. “She deserved it”- “she invited it”-“she wanted it” we imply. That contributes to why she doesn’t report this horrendous crime. We reduce her to nothing.

Let’s watch our comfort with such insinuations my fellow human beings, otherwise we are enablers of sexual violence. Let us change this attitude, let’s rather reinforce confidence in our women to stand against sexual abuse. Your support matters. We can do better.

Much love ❤️
Kelly.