Many of us have at some point heard these words directly or indirectly. Verbally, Written or Signalled—“I don’t want to be with you anymore”.
And most of the time that makes us feel like we’ve been left to die 💔.
So really a breakup can make us desperate to hang onto a person,
Desperate to get them back
Desperate to show them they are making a mistake by leaving
Desperate to point out that they are leaving you for the wrong person
Desperate to have them say ‘I am staying’, ‘I love you more’
Desperate to show them how much hurt we are so that they realise we loved them so much our lives depended on it….
But we get desperate until they return,and in their presence 👇🏼…..
A month later you realize you ve settled for pity,not love. They still don’t feel the same way and you don’t feel the same way either
Two months later you realise you ve settled to be mistreated while they scream at you ‘I wanted out!,you are the one who dragged me back’ as they kick and destroy what’s left of you
Three months later you realise you actually wish they were gone because they are the same old untrustworthy, uncaring, selfish and self centered person that you spent nights crying about.
Four months later you realise you are still fighting for attention and fighting the wrong people that you feel are replacing you as he is busy living his life.
Five months later you realise you have sacrificed yourself for her, you are walking around empty with hope she will fulfill you but she rather shakes off every tiny droplet that is possibly left of you.
Six months later you realise you surrendered to be their slave when you begged to have them back with their heavy baggage. Now you are carrying it for them
A year later you realise you now are living on someone’s terms, your true self is dead and strong has departed. Your fear of them leaving killed your dreams and aspirations.
Many years later you realise you could have done better by letting them go because there is an emotional void that is not filling up since that day they said ‘I am leaving’ and you begged them to stay. You are deeply lonely while they are still there with you.
My friend,
there is pain in any loss of what you used to value, that is a fact, be courageous to face it. Hurting at that moment is you being a human being,
but begging to be loved back is you abandoning yourself and closing doors on discovering the you that you forgot while you were busy loving someone more than yourself.
Rather get desperate to heal and remind yourself that you are lovable beyond someone’s validation. I assure you,Its something worth your effort, to live your life unanchored to pain.
And you know what? if they are to return, let it not be to your desperate self, let them realise your standards have since risen higher, they gotta step up or continue walking away because you are not desperate to settle for less.
Heal my friend,
Much love ❤️
Kelly
Life Ls 