Acceptance

In any recovery there is a big pivotal point that helps us leap forward otherwise we remain ‘psychologically disabled’ ….this pivotal point is called ‘Acceptance’ : The Willingness to tolerate a difficult situation and move forward.

We have to compare the ‘what was’ and ‘what is’ then find a way to live on with the difference there.

The difference may be positive and that’s why we usually ‘get amazed’, ‘get happy’ about how our life progresses, because there is addition to your life.
The difference may be negative – that is where the difficulty is- that is why we grieve , because there is a loss or undesired change of your usual self.

In most of the time if not all the time we cannot change ‘what was’… Acceptance helps us to get over that inability to change the past.
Acceptance is letting the past influence a positive change in your ‘now’.

Find a platform to accept that things may never be the same again so that you create room for “things can be better or great regardless of the present scar”

Acceptance is not the easiest thing to do, it requires input from you mental capacity, it requires sacrifice, it requires compromise and it requires forgiveness.
Letting go is part of acceptance. Letting go of that guilt, letting go of that blame, letting go of that hatred, letting go of that self pity, letting go of self criticism, letting go of that fear. Letting go of what provoked your emotional pain.

For instance;
You lost that job but dwelling on the loss is only delaying your progress— Grieve and Accept so that you get motivated to look for another job.

You lost your loved one, grieve & understand that you will never forget, sometimes your remembrance will come with pain, but accept that they are gone so that you adapt to move forward in their absence. It is the most difficult thing but everyday tune yourself because it is doable.

You failed that exam, you cannot change that- don’t dwell on it for long…it’s okay to be angry and disappointed but accept eventually that you failed so that you get back up and retry again.

Your childhood was unpleasant, your marriage was horrible, your relationship was hell—you cannot change that past, remembrance thereof may come with pain but move forward still—accept it for what it was so that you create a room to live a new life, work on adapting to your new life and allow new opportunities to come in- that turns into inspiration for yourself and others everytime you dat “yes,I am a survivor”

You got in that car accident and lost your limb, You lost functionality because of an illness, — grieve and accept it for what it is so that you adapt to function as a different you. As human beings we have an amazing power to adapt to change. That adaptation maybe the best thing that your life has ever brought because it encompasses growth beyond a challenge

Resilience is not about denial of what happened, it is moving forward with life despite what happened, it is fighting against the odds. Your ability to triumph depends on your motivation to overcome- & that comes from accepting what happened and finding another way to achieve your goal or to live on.

I pray that whatever happened to you, you ultimately find acceptance so that you can move forward and not soak in sorrow. Find that help- psychologically, physically and spiritually. It may take weeks, it may take months, it may take years but the big difference is in reminding yourself everyday to accept what is and leaping forward in a positive way.

Love always ❤️
Kelly.