What do you do when you hear rumors that directly affect your life? Or you find out something unexpectedly hurtful for you about your loved ones- either your partner, your family, your friends etc
See, rumors are usually bad news with not much validation but so damn painful. On the other hand sudden shocking findings are as much painful. You get a strong nag & edge to do something about them there and there , thus mostly push you to be impulsive.
Family and friends play a big role in how you handle a rumor, conflict or misunderstanding but the biggest role player is yourself. You know your situation better. And do remember you are vulnerable at that point, guard yourself.
Family and friends will have reservations about either your work, your relationship, your way of life, your spirituality and other important areas of your life , those reservations become accentuated when a problem comes up. Some in good faith and some in not so good faith.
It is natural, we are different in how we experience and view life.
We have loved ones who tend to flow along with how we feel and approve our impulsivity in the thought that resonating our thoughts is a form of support until something detrimental happens.
There are those who are empathetic but will stop you in your tracks, ‘don’t rush’. Cry but do not rush into any ultimate decision yet. Grant yourself an opportunity to assess your situation with a sound mind.
There are those who are empathetic but validate and add to your self victimization, unaware that they fuel your pain and anger. The thing is, when we are hurt we are inclined to feel like we are the only victims, we are innocent and life is unfair to just us while everyone else is happy.
There are those loved ones who will wonder why in the world you are hurting, cut the ties and step on forward, you are better off but If not careful the temporary assurance will push you to impulsivity.
There are those who will have you explore deep into the whole situation- how it came about, was it in good faith, have you found out truth into this, what role did you have in it, how you want to handle it, what impact will it have on you…
So we may get confused about what to do really, we are likely to get caught up in a cocoon of indecisiveness and continued conflict of thoughts because of external influence of people we value.
That is why it is important to seek formal counselling,have a neutral person
—who will help show you what others overlook,
—who will point out your own possible contribution in this arena of your hurt,
—who will remind you that at the other end is a human being still
—who will help weigh the impact of your decisions and choices
—and help build a foundation of how to cope going on forward.
The truth is, decisions made with active emotional influence of hurt usually cause prolonged pain with no closure, with uncertainty in the long term, regret and resentment.
Decisions made in the background of calmness comes with contentment in your choices, assertiveness, acceptance and harmony.
… Heal without losing yourself and peace of mind.
Love always ❤️
Kelly
Life Ls 